Monday, October 19, 2009

Existential Crisis

This has no form, just a stream of consciousness. Apologies up front.

Existential crisis is the word of the day, well, last 2 years? I feel a state of free falling, having no anchor to the world. Except for my wife. It is hard to trust one person with my total existence, probably not stable of me. It is all I have right now. So, I start there. Fragile. Left to the whims of another. What a huge burden to place on another. I am sorry.

I try and distract myself with my job. Work so hard to get a sense of belonging, being needed. This too is unsafe and dangerous. Any flicker of doubt of security, and I crash. Not good.

I don’t want the world that I grew up in. Do I want this world? Can I fit into this world? Why can’t people be honest? True to others, do they even know what they truly want? Or have we all become mindless consumers?

There is hope, Richard Carrier has the right idea. http://www.opednews.com/articles/Interview-with-Richard-Car-by-Ben-Dench-090803-799.html

RC: In general, I would like to see increasing universal improvements in education. In particular, I want our education system to shift from a memory-based to a skills-based model. For example, now we ask students to memorize lists and facts (as in science and history), and mechanically reproduce procedures (as in math and language), without actually teaching them any skills. Instead of teaching history as long lists of names and dates, history should be taught as cause and effect, with an emphasis on historical method: how do we know what we know about history, how do we test and challenge claims about history, when should we be humble or cautious about historical claims and why. Science should be taught in terms of method: how did ancient scientists figure out what they did, how do we test scientific claims today, what sorts of general and specific methods work, how can they be adapted to other things, what lessons have we learned about assumptions or methods that misled us in the past. Mathematics should be about why math is useful, it should be about application, what is it for, how can we use it, and to that end statistics should replace algebra as the primary focus of required course work, so students know how to evaluate statistical claims made in the media and elsewhere, and algebra and other maths should focus less on memorizing procedures and more about how those maths can be used in the real world to accomplish things, and what the equations and symbols represent in the real world. For example, calculus makes a great deal more sense, and teaches us a great deal more of use, when we understand that it's not just a complicated calculation procedure, but that equations in calculus are literally sentences describing physical, often three dimensional shapes, and that we can use those descriptions to predict things about those shapes, such as in the very way Newton designed the calculus for. And philosophy should be a required subject at all grade levels beginning at least at middle school, again not as a history of philosophy or survey of philosophical positions and ideas, but as a skill, an actual practice and procedure, a set of questions and a method, an understanding of why those questions are important, how their answers affect everything up to and including the moral and political decisions we make, how to find and test those answers on our own, and how using the tools of self-examination and critical thinking about life can make us happier, better people.
I think if every American had an education like that, an education that didn't infantilize them but challenged them and truly taught them how to think and gave them skills for questioning and getting at the truth and arming themselves against deception and manipulation, from the media, from marketing, from government, and yes, from religion, the future course of this nation would be far brighter for it.

Think! People, Think.

BD: What do you say to those who claim that without a belief in God, humanity has no moral compass? For instance, I had a conversation with someone who insisted that if it's the case that atheists behave better than theists, it is simply because the individuals in question hadn't taken their respective worldviews to their logical conclusions.


RC: Of course my entire book Sense and Goodness without God is about answering that very question.
But for a humorous primer:
http://richardcarrier.blogspot.com/2008/02/darla-she-goat.html
And for the shortest of short answers:
Atheists have such a strong moral compass precisely because they have taken their worldview to its logical conclusion. For when you really do that, rationally and factually, you will realize there is nothing being bad has to offer you that you actually want, and that everything you really do want, and want badly, is only reliably gotten by being good. In fact, once you are fully in touch with reality, and know yourself and the real consequences of any choice, being good is so much more fun, that once you know how much more enjoyable it is, you will wonder why anyone bothers being bad at all.

Where do I go from here? More therapy. Because, I don’t know what else to do. I don’t know what I want. Well, yes I do. I want to live in a rational, honest society. But, where is it? Will I ever see it?

From the last segment of Century of the Self

Fundamentally here we have two different view of human nature, and of Democracy. You have the view that people are irrational, they are bundles of unconscious emotion. That comes directly out of Freud, and business are very able to respond to that. They have honed their skills doing that is what marketing is really all about. What are the symbols, the music, the images, the words, that will appeal to these unconscious feelings.

Politics must be more than that. Politics and leadership are about engaging the public in a rational discussion and deliberation about what is best, and treating people with respect; In terms of their rational abilities to debate what is best.

If it is not that, if it is Freudian, basically a matter of appealing to the same basic unconscious feelings that business appeals to. Then why not let business do it. Business can do it better. Business knows how to do it. Business is after all, in the business of responding to those feelings.

Ahhh, but there is greed in business. I think we all have seen what happens when we let business run things. We end up where we are at.

We need a change. We need the people thinking rationally, discussing and deliberating about what is best. So what about Libertarian Socialism? What about Noam Chomsky’s views on Politics?

Where do I fit in? Freely falling. Existential crisis, my world view destroyed and my dreams unobtainable.

Sunday, October 11, 2009

Lost

Lots has happened since I last posted, and yet my life is still the same. Been to the hospital, I’m feeling better now. Drugs have changed, still going to therapy. Depression is managed.

I’m still trying to figure out what I want out of life. I’m so sad that I don’t have the family I was born with. I’m grieving for my loss of them, or at least the loss of what I used to think was them. Because, they are not what they used to be or what, how I thought they were and would become.  Such a bright future when I turned 12. It was all torn away, and I’ve never come to terms with the loss.

I feel so alone, people are supposed to have a support group around them, friends and family. I have my wife, and for that I’m thankful. She tries so hard, but one person can’t fill the shoes of a group. It should be enough, but it’s not. I sort of have friends. I’m not sure they would still be my friends if they read this blog.

I’ve had a couple of emails from people that have read my story, some were positive, others were not. I’m not bitter or a hater, I’m just trying to share things that happened to me, as honestly as possible. Why? I don’t know. I guess I just want to be heard.

It would be nice for someone to walk in my shoes for a while and then maybe someone else would understand me. Maybe then I could have a friend that would replace what I have lost. I guess that is what I’m looking for, but I will never find.

Maybe I should just accept the way things are and not wish for something different. But it is lonely. I will figure it out sometime. For now, I’m safe, ok, sad and lonely.

Monday, May 12, 2008

The Man from Earth

I watched it a couple weekends ago, and really enjoyed it. It is very atheist friendly, independent film, and has lots of dialog. In fact, I'd say the entire movie is just dialog. I don't want to spoil the movie for those that don't want to know anything about a movie before they watch it. For those that like spoilers check it out on imdb or wikipedia.


I liked it, maybe you will too. Netflix has it available to watch on demand, if you already have an account with them.

Saturday, May 10, 2008

Small Update

I'm so tired. I can easily sleep 16 hours a day and still sleep more. I think it is a side effect to the Abilify that I have been taking. I've tried changing the time of day when I take it, but it doesn't seem to help. I'm going to have to talk with my psychiatrist to see about going off it for a while. Always being tired is really terrible and makes it hard to deal with everyday things. Until I get this sleeping thing figured out, my blogging is going to suffer.

I've been suffering from allergies too, so I have fairly nasty cough. Oh, and I'm really sick to my stomach as well. I went in to get a check up with a standard doctor, just to make sure that my being tired isn't something more serious.  Of course, they wanted blood work, and it took 3 different nurses and 4 different attempts to finally find blood in my hand. My veins are deep and are hard to get to; I hate giving blood. All the nurses were very nice and polite, and they all hated having to stab me with a needle so many times. I've come to expect a hassle whenever I need blood work done.

It's odd, part of me wants there to be something minor wrong so they can easily fix it. Another part of me wants them not to find anything wrong. But, if there is nothing wrong, then I'll just continue to worry. So here's to hoping that everything is normal and I'm just having a bad time with Abilify.

Life is full of its ups and downs, I just wish it was easier to remember the ups when things are down.